victoriabrassy

All American Sweetheart

28 · female · United States Categories: American Girls, Brunette, Girls Next Door, Piercings, Redheads, Small Tits Statistics: 6475 visitors, 8 fans, 8 awards

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About Me

I'm dynamic, creative, natural and professional. My time is precious and I do my very best not to waste yours. I would appreciate the same courtesy from you.






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My specialties include, teasing, dirty talk, sensuality and sensual domination, storytelling, genuine girlfriend experiences and friendship, roleplay, cuckolding, moaning, sloppy blowjobs, edging (giving and receiving), BDSM, golden showers, squirting, anal, outdoor, all natural themes and creating custom video content.



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  • victoriabrassy wrote 2 months ago
    New interview with Live Cam Model Shows! If you've ever had some questions about me or something along that nature, this is a great place to read up. :) https://www.livecammodelshows.com/cam-model-interviews/
  • victoriabrassy wrote 2 months ago
    Well First Choice Pay is bankrupt. That was a curveball if ever there was one. Holy Mother of All Mothers. :O
  • victoriabrassy wrote 2 months ago
    Happy Tax Season!
  • victoriabrassy wrote 4 months ago
    Can't believe valentines day is almost here! Anyone want to send some old fashioned paper valentines my way. :D
  • victoriabrassy wrote 5 months ago
    We made it through half of January guys!!! WOOHOO!

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My Rules

Message me WHERE you found me, especially if you found me on NiteFlirt (NF), Cam Model Directory (CMD) or Live Cam Model Shows (LCMS).

NO PAYPAL. Asking will result in an immediate BLOCK. Paypal is not an adult friendly payment service and is ridden with fraudulent clients. It is a HUGE red flag to even ask.

Verbal abuse and harassment will be met with a BLOCK AND REPORT. I rarely give second chances. BE RESPECTFUL. I will let you know if you're crossing a line and give you a chance to correct your behavior before ending the call.

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Everyone has limits. This is why it is so important to have a safe word or at the very minimum, consent and understanding before we get started. My personal preferences and hard limits are this: No ageplay. Nothing under 18 years old in fantasy. No bringing up my family or children in your fantasy. No DDLG . No gagging. No deepthroat. No vomiting. No extreme domination. No drugs. No sleeping or pretending to be dead. No choking or strangulation. No scatology. No animal fantasies.

I am open minded towards a few more frowned upon fetishes such as gold showers, custom videos with bathroom and toilet slavery, step family role play fantasies, time of the month shows or custom videos, consented intox, weapons as props, wax play, and race play but these are NOT my preferred shows and I reserve the right to deny these types of requests at any time for any reason.

I get asked this all the time! You CAN have my sextpanther number for FREE 1 (512) 817-1089 and send me a text message there. This is not my personal phone number, rather a secure line set up for sexting, trading pictures and short video clips straight to your phone without any app or even internet connection.

Yes, I do. I offer the same service on all chat and messaging platforms from snapchat to kik to messenger and love to play on there all day. Sexting prices can be found in my rates menu $1/minute for general sexting and $1.50/min for pictures and videos included.

Yes I do! My public snapchat is more like an advertising and marketing platform. My premium snapchat includes full body nudes, close ups, toy play, custom requests, outdoor photos, exhibitionism, shower shows, nude house cleaning, boy and girl content (after June 2018), and the usual snapchat shenanigans. Dick pics and screen shots are more than welcome. I love to chat daily but if you want sexting specifically those are different.

The links section above has all of my places to see my video content. I mainly upload videos to Many Vids, Clips 4 Sale and iWant Clips. There are certain videos that I have where I cannot upload them to clips sites due to their terms of service and those are delivered privately. Email me at victoriabrassy@gmail.com for requests of this nature.

Absolutely! I will do three way calls if you have another model on the line already set up to play but I don't set those up independently. Feel free to send me a message on social media, skype or here for more information about my shows.

You do NOT have to show your face on cam if you don't want to but I love being able to see who I am interacting with and I LOVE watching the final result knowing I did that for you.

This is a special fetish that is often not allowed on almost every clip and live cam site due to the fact that it's banned by payment providers and credit card companies for being violent and gory. Ha! While this can be true, most of the time it is natural and just part of being a woman. If you would like a show or custom video during this time then contact me and we can work it out.

Coming the summer of 2018 I will be offering couple shows. Since this is a new service I am providing please be patient while we both learn the ropes on how to perform together. You can find my prices in the rates section.

NO. This is not an adult friendly payment provider and is a red flag for scamming and fraudulent activity.

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I use two different cameras, both are Logitech (C920 and BCC950). Logitech BCC950 Conference Cam with ZEISS certified lens with a 78-degree field of view, 180-degree video pan, and 1080p HD 1.2x digital remote controlled zoom, and Blue Yeti Snowball iCE Condenser Cardioid Microphone

My Rates

 
Sexting
Sexting Pics & Vids
Vanilla Show
Fetish Show
Couple Show
1 minutes
$ 1.00 $ 1.50 $ 3.00 $ 4.00 $ 5.00
5 minutes
$ 5.00 $ 7.50 $ 15.00 $ 20.00 $ 25.00
10 minutes
$ 10.00 $ 15.00 $ 30.00 $ 40.00 $ 50.00
15 minutes
$ 15.00 $ 22.50 $ 45.00 $ 60.00 $ 75.00
20 minutes
$ 20.00 $ 30.00 $ 60.00 $ 80.00 $ 100.00
30 minutes
$ 30.00 $ 45.00 $ 90.00 $ 120.00 $ 150.00
45 minutes
$ 45.00 $ 67.50 $ 135.00 $ 180.00 $ 225.00
60 minutes
$ 60.00 $ 90.00 $ 180.00 $ 240.00 $ 300.00

My Schedule

Times are CST
Time
Monday
1 PM - 3 PM
Monday
7 PM - 11 PM
Tuesday
1 PM - 3 PM
Tuesday
7 PM - 11 PM
Wednesday
1 PM - 3 PM
Wednesday
7 PM - 11 PM
Thursday
1 PM - 3 PM
Thursday
7 PM - 11 PM
Friday
1 PM - 3 PM
Friday
7 PM - 11 PM
Saturday
1 PM - 3 PM
Saturday
7 PM - 11 PM
Sunday
1 PM - 3 PM
Sunday
7 PM - 11 PM

My Blog

Interview with Live Cam Model Shows

Below is a copy of the full interview published on LCMS interview page here: https://www.livecammodelshows.com/cam-model-interviews/
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When did you first learn about camming and why did you decide to start participating in the field?

I’ve always been a sexual person, even growing up playing with my stuffed animals so my curiosity and desire to continue exploring those aspects of my life didn’t really surprise me or anyone else.

It was actually through a mutual friend on snapchat who recommended I get into camming specifically. I had no idea this type of occupation even existed!

After almost six month of careful deliberation I made the plunge to do my first live broadcast and haven’t looked back since. I embarked into video production and phone sex first as an outlet for some of my sexual frustrations that were unfulfilled in my traditional life before I began live camming to build my confidence and experience.

I find it interesting how so many people expect one thing from themselves and are amazed to find out they can simultaneously be more complex. I’m no longer living a shell of who I was and now live more boldly and authentically.
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You have a lot of experience with a variety of styles (and kinks) of sexuality, what are some of your favorite types of shows and what about them do you find so satisfying?

My journey into adult industry has been about expanding my ability to enjoy the duality and expression of what it means to be human (more broad philosophical life perspective).
What I enjoy the most is being able to expand someone else’s mind and perspective on his or her own sexuality. I enjoy pushing the boundaries and getting to know people on a very deep and personal level.

I love shows where there is a genuine connection and personal growth, whether it be through mutual masturbation together or cuckolding. I love the interaction and need that connection to feel sexually satisfied myself.

My favorite type of show is any type of roleplay fantasy whether it be a naughty neighbor or real life peron of desire you want to live out and take to the next level. Psychologically these types of experiences help us process some of our subconscious desires and needs in a healthy way.

I find the “helping others” and “digging deeper” aspect the most satisfying about this profession. I really enjoy knowing I was able to give someone what they needed the most and work hard to do that for each and every person who crosses my path.
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Do you practice any of the fetishes you offer in your personal life? If not, is camming a way to ‘tap in’ to different forms of sexuality that you otherwise wouldn’t explore?

Absolutely! I practice bondage and submission personally on myself with my partner. I’ve discovered ironically that the more dominant I am towards other men, the more submissive I want to feel in the bedroom at home, too.

I can move between both sides of the power play and enjoy the complexities that go into that type of relationship on both sides. I’m also able to understand the male sexual experience better and try new things that I may not have known about through my experiences with other people. The broadening experience has only helped and cultivate my sexuality.
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Based on your reviews it’s clear your clients absolutely adore you. What types of clients do you enjoy the most and why?

Well thank you!
I want people to know they are the only one with me in that moment when we interact with each other on cam. I don’t like to feel pressured and I try to create a relaxed and sensual environment.

I enjoy clients who are laid back, polite and genuine with me as much as I am with them. I love good communicators and honesty. I’m very adaptable and accommodating and can change things if you want to try something different.

Clients that respect my sexual needs and desires and allow me to be myself in front of them help make the experience that much more fun!
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When you’re not on cam, what are some of the things you enjoy doing most in your private time offline? I’m guessing one of them is working out, what is/are your favorite type(s) of exercise?

My private life is surprisingly boring!
I’m a busy person in the sense that I try to spend my time during the day DOING things efficiently. I am the mother of three little ones under four years old so I am extremely busy managing a household by myself during the day.
I love spending time with my family whenever I have the chance.

When I do have free time, I love to paint. Some of my work has been in a few local galleries and art shows but I don’t consider myself famous by any means.

I also own my own jewelry business and design (by hand) rings, necklaces, earrings and bracelets.

I also garden sporadically and love interior design, landscaping and architecture.

Baking and cooking are passions of mine too that have been revitalized since I’ve moved into a new place. I prefer to eat in and try new recipes rather than go out to restaurants but I’m not opposed to trying new foods at all!

Food is my favorite which is why I end up working out whenever I can, too.
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Is there anything else you’d like your clients to know about you?

Well if you’ve made it this far then I commend you!
I am more than meets the eye. I am more than just a string of dirty sentences and soft spoken words.

I am a human being and a woman which comes with many challenges! I have a real life like everyone else.

I think if anything I want people to remember that I am not a sex robot but rather a person.

I am currently working on getting my PhD in clinical psychology so there is a lot of brain behind the beauty and a lot of untapped potential there that I think members may not focus on right away. 🙂

Cammodels and Camsites...

Cam models can be some of the sweetest girls you've ever met OR they can be the most righteous pain the asses you've ever had to deal with.

In the year I've been online I've had my fair share of rude and entitled customers and clientele but for the most part, I never had another cam model intentionally steal my clients or act catty towards me. All in all, the women I've "met" on social media and online who are fellow cammers have been nothing but supportive, hilarious and inspiring. Even some very famous and well known girls (Destiny Diaz, Housewife Swag, OmfgMeow, etc) have been extremely helpful and I'm forever grateful for their friendship this past year (and hopefully in the future!)

What I don't understand is how some of the girls leaving comments in the forum have been attacking me personally for stating my opinion and experience regarding positive payment options with SkyPrivate.

I WAS OFFERING MY EXPERIENCE! MY OPINION! THAT IS IT.

While they have had their software and payment issues in the past, they have ALWAYS taken care of me and I've always reached out to THEM to make sure my things were being taken care of. Within 24 hours their support team had every issue resolved and followed up. This says a lot about a cam site/network when they can do this on a large scale and make me... the tiny and insignificant cammer, feel like my time and work was valued, even if they were having issues out of their control on their end.

No I wasn't being compensated to offer my input and no I wasn't trying to actively make friends or a name for myself. I was genuinely impressed with how they've handled the situation. I don't think camsite (and models for that matter) get enough POSITIVE feedback and I was merely trying to change things in light of adversity!

To infer I was lying or that my opinion was invalid really does hit me hard because I was sharing my experience and what I thought was amazing work on their part because I know how hard it is to run and manage a business. I can't even imagine the stress and work they're doing in the PR department as well as with models who are angry about this.... and trust me, I GET THE ANGER AND DISAPPOINTMENT TOO.

I've been with other companies who have withheld payment for weeks, months and sometimes, let it disappear all together. For example, Live Jasmin doesn't pay every penny that is earned and those add up over time. A fetish video site tried not to pay me over $200 in commissions ($500 in sales for them) and that was a huge loss for me after a lot of work uploading and editing.

Most recently, PervOut Pay (Instinct Driven Media, LLC) has had payment issues where I am waiting on almost $400 from live cam sessions and custom video orders to be processed and paid from the beginning of January. There is no timeline on their end with only "we're sorry" and "there might be litigation involved" and "we have no idea when this will get resolved" mentality as well.

They have always paid me on time even when their direct deposit and check service was interrupted last year. So I am trying not to hold my breath and instead give them the benefit of the doubt that my money will come through even though I have been burned before. We ALL HAVE BEEN BURNED.

In the meantime, I keep meticulous receipts and records of what is owed to me so that I can use it in the future should I need to but I hope I never have to.

But back to my original point... when I say that a cam site or company is legitimately trying their best to make things right or do what they can do, I MEAN IT! I wouldn't put those things out there if it didn't ring true for me.

The wide range of support help and efforts from camsite to camsite varies so much. Many girls are left in the dark regarding A LOT of issues from member abuse, late payments, software issues, etc. SkyPrivate stepped up to the plate to make sure things were taken care of when they needed to be, at least for me they did, in a timely manner and deserved some respect for that effort.

And yes, I'm grateful not mad anymore. Not complaining about the problem, but grateful they worked with me to get an alternative payment solution fixed so that I could get what I earned. While it obviously is not idea since the fees are higher, I'm happy to be getting paid again.

NOTE: That is regarding the forum post on the SkyPrivate Support Thread.

Alll my love,
Vickie

Now Accepting Cryptocurrency!

Today I signed up with BitVids, a brand new video sharing platform similar to Many Vids but allows payment for streaming videos using bitcoin and cryptocurrency instead of cash.

I also opened up a wallet for accepting cryptocurrency and I am still learning a TON everyday about this new wave of secure payment in the adult industry.

Also, due to the volatility of these new payment methods, I will not be offering ALL my services as payment. However, if this is a last resort option for you I would be happy to accommodate you.

Cryptocurrency I currently accept includes BitCoin, LiteCoin, Ethereum, and Bitcoin Cash.

Let me know what you think of this new trend in adult payments! Thanks!

Spirituality

This is a really personal post and not one of the sexual nature but may give some insight into some of what I've been going through the past week. If anything I am trying to process everything and I find writing seems to help, as does talking.

I just filmed a video and should have it uploaded soon but what it dives into is some of the spiritual and religious issues of this. It's been a difficult animal to say the least and I do my fair share of rambling but I am working through a lot of different ideas and feelings about grief and God. These events just really have you question a lot more than you consciously every really want to in the first place.

Since starting this line of work, I've abandoned a lot of preconceived notions about Christianity and living life a certain way and after this event, I've been questioning those things again because it could not be more than obvious that I am not your shining star!!! However, I don't feel guilt anymore for what I do and I don't think anyone should feel that cloud. It's just different from what you think and hard to explain.

Anyway, maybe the video will explain things a little bit better but that's where I am right now. Questioning a lot of spiritual and life related things... most of all, the afterlife and beyond.

Vickie

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How I Faced the Stigma of Sex Work

"If someone isn't what others want them to be, then others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

This quote resonates with me lately and for good reason. A lot of people are opinionated and vocal about how they feel with regards to sex work and others are silent and brooding. What is it that makes this profession one of the most highly disrespected professions in the world?

A little background before we get into some of the finer details (so you know what angle I'm coming from). I started sex work when I was 18 years old back in 2007 with the advent of "Hot or Not" and the beginning of Facebook. Most of you guys probably don't even remember what Myspace was but back when I was a teenager and young adult, it was everything to me and my budding identity. I have always been savvy with the Internet and I am part of a generation that grew up with both sides of life before and after its arrival. So since an early age, I've used it to express myself and connect with other people, experiment with HTML, graphics, photography, and video effects, and most of all the image of myself I wanted to portray. Unfortunately, a lot of very sick and twisted people also use social media to prey on young people and I was one of those naive and curious teenage girls with very little sexual experience and innocent intentions. For more than three years of my early adulthood I learned the hard way about men and sex both online and offline. I truly believe this is why social media is so heavily censored now. There is great freedom when it comes to being able to express yourself with nudity and then there is a dark side where, like any other profession out there, people use other people for personal gain and exploitation. It's awful and heartbreaking, but it's also part of life.

Fast forward a decade later. I'm married now to the love of my life and I have three kids under four, a mortgage, and a life that by any other objective means appears "normal" except for one thing which for years I couldn't put my finger on. I was happy don't get me wrong, but I was unhappy at the same time. Something was missing. A dream was unlived. My heart was either permanently damaged or life just wasn't what I thought it would be. So when my husband went out of town for a month I began to wander online again once more just as naive as the first time. It was just an innocent hobby, a fun one at that, when I started chatting and getting to know other people online. Now as an adult entertainer a lot of things have changed regarding my choice to get online.

It's never been more clear to me now that this hobby is more of a business and a profession. It's complete with deadlines, taxes, customer service, and marketing. There are video editing programs with steep learning curves, photography and lighting skills that take time and practice to master, and multitasking on a very high and efficient level in order to cater to multiple needs simultaneously. Many people overlook the fact that like anything else in life, it does take a significant amount of effort and self-discipline to be consistent and work in this industry.

So naturally, after a while of working, I decided it was time to explain to my family where I got the money to purchase land by myself. At first, it started with only phone sex and sexting, text messages, and short little video clips. Hardly anything to laugh about but it was enough money for me to feel like I was contributing to the family income without having to put my kids in childcare or waste gasoline to and from the local hospital (I was an RN by trade). I was able to make myself feel a little better about life at the same time and get some time away from my kids and so-called "normal" life. At first my family was horrified and doubtful that I'd ever last long doing this for a "job" or anything close to making money. They laughed at me and turned a blind eye... "Oh she's just being crazy again." They were wrong!

Then I finally came to the decision to begin live webcam shows. I signed up for half a dozen websites, bought a laptop and Logitech webcam and signed on for the first time wearing nothing but my bra and panties. It was a good month or two before I landed on a site that I enjoyed interacting on the most. For me, while money is definitely part of the equation, so is my personal preference and comfort level online. I was able to start slow and move into things at my own pace and that was everything to me. The void was filling up quickly with wonderful conversations and new sexual experiences. I was even able to explore fetishes I didn't even know existed and came to find out I had a dominant side that was never fully expressed. I knew there was no other outlet for me to be myself within a committed marriage and feel like myself at the same time.

There is so much stigma attached to working in any field related to sex and a lot of discrimination publicly regarding the fact that there are people that are forced to be sex slaves or work underground for a pimp or addicted to doing drugs. I don't want to ignore this reality of life but I also don't want my story to go untold, that this isn't always the case. I want to emphasize here that while that may be some people, being a sex worker can also be a CHOICE and I emphasize choice in a positive way. It has always been my choice to play online and express myself this way and it has always been something I've enjoyed doing. Those things haven't changed since the beginning of the internet and advent of cell phones with a camera attached to them. The only difference is now I am being paid for it. My body, my artistry, my personality and my life with anything and everything in between is now a product.

My only regret is that I didn't start my paid ventures in the adult industry sooner. It has liberated me in ways I can't even explain both financially and personally. While we all are entitled to our opinions, if only we could open our minds and hearts to the beautiful variety of human sexuality and ways of expressing ourselves. I don't plan on going back to the sheltered and repressed person I used to be. I am free now.

How to Get a Girl to Like Anal

My partner has had anal sex before me with lots of other women. Enough to make me jealous and potentially interested on competitive grounds alone but I've always told him that if it was something he truly desired in a way I couldnt provide, that he had a hall pass to fulfill that need. I've attempted anal sex at least twice with two different people since I was 18 years old and didn't like it either time. It was beyond painful and there was absolutely nothing desirable about that kind of pain to me. Other types of pain, maybe, but we'll get into that another time.

Like most things in life, no matter how much someone has a grand idea or sage piece of advice, if I'm not receptive and even open to the idea then I completely shut them down. It isn't until I am curious enough to accept and explore those things for myself to even listen. I'm just stubborn like that and yeah, it's definitely not one of my better personality traits in this case. Anyway, in this example the negotiations were on anal sex. It was a topic that was dropped for many months until one day I was starting to explore that side of myself with more of an open hand and an open mind.

What made the change?

Honestly, I got curious. Ever since I had become pregnant and gone through childbirth that entire part of my body had been opened up in ways I never knew. Over time I am growing more comfortable with my body AND more curious as to how things move, work and change. Things down there definitely change after kids but they also stay the same, too. It's hard to explain and might just be part of getting older and more sexually exploitative in general. Either way, the childbirth experience and motherhood experience was the catalyst in this case for me becoming receptive.

Anal sex before having kids verses after having kids is TOTALLY DIFFERENT!!! Also, if you have ever tried to have anal sex with someone I will tell your right now do not even attempt without copious amounts of lube. Guys, listen to me carefully..

SPIT IS NOT LUBE.

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SPIT IS NOT LUBE.

Ouch. My ass hurts just thinking about that. *shudder* So invest in some lubricant and a lot of it if you want to make it a comfortable experience for you both. Fuck up on anal sex the first time after she agrees to it and you've screwed yourself over for any potential anal sexcapade sin the future so buy the $5 or $10 lube or youre just going to self sabotage yourself and I absolutely do not blame her for refusing anything in the future if that is the case.

Okay, so let's say she's come to a point in her brain where she is mentally curious and open minded to exploring this side of herself sexually. We introduced the ideas through humor and jokes first, memes and funny banter between the two of us. It was an off the cuff thing but it definitely opened up a discussion and that's exactly what you'll want to do if you're not sure where to start. Open up the discussion.

Hopefully it doesn't take you or her that long to figure out what you both want. The first thing we explored with as a couple was anal play, not necessarily anal sex. We began with touching and licking the rim only and then moving on to fingering. Again, do not attempt fingering without lube. What helped me the most was the fact that he was receptive to me playing with him, too. Once I saw how it made him feel and how much pleasure it brought to him by stimulating the prostate gland digitally right before ejaculation, I realized that there might me something to it for me. Once I felt his tongue circle around my tight little asshole, I felt nerves and stimulation there that was not intimidating. It was pleasurable and peaceful anal play focused solely on teasing each other and playing, even if we both knew it would lead to vaginal intercourse. So take the OFF the pressure and focus on exploration and sensations, not orgasm and penetration right off the bat.

For anyone thinking my partner is bisexual or gay NO. He's not. He is extremely straight and very generous in the bedroom as we both are more the giving type than the receiving type. (It just so happens to work out for the both of us since we take care of each other). Now I'm not saying that as a man you need a cock shoved up your ass but what I am saying is that if you're not at least comfortable letting someone go near your own butthole, how can you expect your girlfriend to do the same? Seriously think about this and put yourself in her shoes for a moment, especially if you feel this way right now.

Unless it's just a one night stand thing and you have no plans on meeting the person ever again, have at it. If this is someone you plan on being with for a while then you'll need to make sure there's a solid foundation of trust before proceeding and take into consideration their feelings (you probably should for the one night stand, too but who am I to judge here).

Now this is just my opinion but if I am like most women, I enjoy more than the physical components of sex. Opening up that part of your body to someone makes you extremely vulnerable physically and emotionally so please be a gentleman. Take your time. Listen to her cues. Let her enjoy her experience for what it is (good or bad). Reassure her that you love her, that you find her incredibly hot and sexy. Tell her that she is sexy when she does XYZ specifically, that you're having fun and love every single second of it. It's hard not to feel like you're just going to shit all over yourself sometimes but having dialogue and encouragement really helped me grow into it sexually so that it became something more erotic rather than dirty. Lot's of encouragement and vocalization is a technique that might help you.

Now back to the anal action. When was I finally ready to make the dive into penetration? The moment had to be right and he had to be down there face deep in my pussy before he slid his tongue down into my butt crack and around my rim. Finally, he gently massaged my asshole with one finger, sliding it in one knuckle slowly, then two knuckles deeper, then pulling out ever so slow and steady while watching my facial expressions to see if I was okay or receptive. Yes, it felt like taking a poop backwards and yes it was a little uncomfortable. Luckily, (and this helped me a ton) he didnt even try anal penetration. He made damn sure I had already had a vaginal orgasm.

PLEASURE YOUR WOMAN FIRST.

Why is this important?

1. For starters, I was full of endorphins after cumming so if anything did hurt, I didnt feel it right away.

2. Second, I was in a trusting and loving bubble of oxytocin and wanted to cuddle.

3. Third, the G Spot opens up as a woman has an orgasm. On the back side of that vaginal wall is the anal wall. With a nice patch of super sensitive nerve endings both inside my vagina AND inside my ass, there was ample stimulation to be felt and enjoyed.

4. Fourth, my sphincters were more relaxed and it made it easier for me to avoid the clenched butt syndrome. Smoother for him to penetrate.

5. Finally, for me at least, I was more cognizant of my partner's reactions and enjoyment from the experience rather than focusing on my own enjoyment (or fear for that matter) and that in and of itself was pleasurable. Confused yet? LOL!!

Another thing that helped a ton was clitoral stimulation during the more uncomfortable parts of anal penetration mostly the pushing in. I would tell him if he was going too fast or too deep, so make sure you tell her to communicate back to you with how she is doing. Try not to put her on the spot but do be sure to ask occasionally or at least look at her facial expressions to see if she is in pain! Do not ramrod your cock inside someones butt hole without realizing how it makes them feel. That is just inconsiderate. Those dirty fantasies will come in time. Right now, it's time to be patient and gentle.

Finally, enjoy the anal sex and when you come with her give her extra clitoral stimulation (or let her do it on herself) and have fun! I love it when he comes all over my ass and back. That warm, gooey feeling just melts me on the inside. Its the closest thing to me aside from having someone cum INSIDE of me.

If you're feeling extra naughty you can cum inside of her asshole, there's just one downside to cumming inside a girl and that is the mess and a little thing I like to refer to as the anal shits. I strongly recommend you DO NOT come inside of her for the first time and ease into that over time. It's a whole other beast to adapt to but it has its own perks.

Anyway, hope this blog helped you guys out and maybe you'll get some booty tonight!