Exploring the FemDomme Fetish
I have been a cam model for almost a year now & I still haven't found my "niche". And I think that's ok? The sex work industry is vast and wide and different at every corner. It makes you take stock of yourself & who are in a very upfront way. You can't find your "niche" or your "brand" until you find out who you are in this world & how you want share yourself. I am not entirely sure what those answers are for me yet. The change I feel in my personality as I switch to my online SW mode is different than I feel when I'm having an in person interaction. In the "real world" I'm still outspoken, open, & all those base personality traits, but I'm also more submissive in my sexual relationships. I enjoy serving my partner & being used for pleasure. However, online I'm much more dominant. I'm bossier, more demanding, quicker with my sharp tongue, & have this need to command those around me & demand the attention I believe I deserve. And it's thrilling. And confusing. There is so much competition & pressure to seperate yourself from the rest of cam/online SW world by standing out. I think more recently, and I could be wrong as I'm sure I am, the biggest way to seperate themselves is through femdommme & findom. I get the appeal, its looks like such an easy niche & easily lucrative. Yet, once you really look into that fetish, especially online, you find it's not easy at all. I fell into that fairytale dream & thought "I could be femdomme" and I was even more confused than when I started. You see, I've always been a sexual person & I've always been very interested in the sex industry. As I got older, I became intrigued by the BDSM community & really wanted to explore into that world. Its huge & so incredibly diverse. And while the community is whole heartedly welcoming & willing to help you learn & grow, its members invest a lot of time, emotion, mental energy, & money into this lifestyle that attempting to just enter it & start using it for money seemed highly disrespectful. Not to mention, would you really want to upset a group of people well versed in various restraint methods & pain inflicting tools? I'll pass. They are a kind group, but they are fierce. And I absolutely love that aspect. On my Dominant exploration I also began to realize that whil I liked the idea of being a powerful FemDomme, I lacked the creativity & dedication specifically needed for this genre of kink. These Doms have to invest so much time not only into making new & exciting content, but they also have to make sure they're covering several different sub fetishes within the Dominantion kink, cultivate & screen new subs, maintain their relationship with existing subs & stay up do date on punishments, rewards, & so on all while still doing the basic SW type admin duties such as advertising, editing, shooting, filming etc. Now I don't want this to read as if I'm lazy or not interested in putting in the work. That's necassary for any SW. But I'm still really learning how to effectively do all that on a base level. So I can't in good consious give a half ass effort into kink community that deserves full effort. There are too many "fake" doms as it is. And so I'm still learning & exploring my own place in this wild, freaky fun world.